You cannot both attract my attention and hide from me. I learn a lot about the people I see from every opportunity I have to observe them. I have done this for my entire adult life, and I know I am good at it. When I see you, even if you don’t know I am aware of you, I am figuring out everything I can about you, gleaning every implication I can from every action of yours I am aware of. I can do a plausible back-story on just about anyone, and if I take the time to think about you, any secrets you keep from me will be matters of meaningless detail. I will have inferred everything about you that matters to you.
That’s actually a fine reason to dismiss me: I am scary-good at “reading” people.
The essay in its entirety is much softer than the matter quoted above might imply, but it at least plausible to me that someone might regard this as a bogus justification to dismiss the arguments I am making.